We all know the struggle can be REAL when it comes to #ToddlerMom life. Like, “I want to run far, far away” real! Am I the only mom who argues with a two-year-old? And loses. 🙂 Or the only mom who allows their four-year-old to walk around with a Ninja Turtle shell on? Yes, he even sleeps in it! What about the mom who gets out-smarted by a five-year-old? You too?! Ok, good! I’m excited to hear I’m not alone. Now that my oldest is in Kindergarten and my youngest has a few more years left in toddlerhood, I can feel my energy coming back.
Things were a bit different a couple of years ago when I had three under three, some days felt like years! It’s so easy to get consumed by #MomLife! It’s so hard to avoid burnout when raising these little toddler creatures. Let me share with you 5 SIMPLE ways to avoid burnout while raising toddlers.
Live in the moment.
Time is something we can’t exchange or refund. So we must use it wisely. We MUST live in the moment. We are rushing through life faster than lightning. Slow down, mama. While it is important to set a daily schedule to ensure success, it is also equally important to move from moment to moment STRESS-FREE! Take those moments to allow your toddlers to jump around in muddy puddles like Peppa and George! Take moments to allow your new eater to get messy trying new foods. Take those moments to allow your laundry to pile up while you sip morning coffee or afternoon wine. Take those moments to snuggle with your little ones after they’ve negotiated their way into your bed after asking for 21 cups of water! LOL! (This stuff really happens!) Take those moments after everyone is sleeping to just stare at the ceiling. TAKE. THOSE. MOMENTS. If you don’t take them, you’ll never get them. It’s the little things that make moments matter most!
Slow down Mama and take those MOMents!
Ask for help.
So after you’re done letting the dishes and laundry pile up, call someone to help you clean. LOL! Ok, I’m only kidding!! We all have those moments when life is just “too much to handle”! In those moments, learn to ask for help. Part of being a Mommyhero is knowing when to ask for help. Sometimes Batman needed Robin. This is a hard lesson I wish I would have learned earlier on. After I had my daughter, I had three under three. At one point, I had two three-year-olds and a newborn. Talk about needing help. My husband had to go straight back to work after the birth of our daughter, so it was just me and my little babies ALL day long. Sometimes I look back and wonder how I did it, day in and day out. God definitely helped me through those long days and even longer nights. Take it from me, ask for help if you need it. You’re actually stronger when you ask for help. On the flip side, if someone asks if you need help, take it!! 🙂
Make yourself a priority.
I know your days may feel like years on top of years BUT set aside time for yourself every day. The amount of time doesn’t matter, just make time for YOU! Self-care is the best care and in order to effectively care for your family, you have to take care of you FIRST, not last. Get up earlier, go to bed later, schedule a Mommy Day! Whatever you need to do, just do it. You don’t want to get lost in the translation of motherhood. I remember waking up some mornings not knowing who I was or what I was doing. Honestly, it’s not a great feeling. I felt completely lost. When I started making time for myself, I started feeling like ME again. I remembered what made me laugh and what made me smile, I remembered my love for makeup and nail polish. It’s the simple things that make us who we are. Don’t lose touch with the simple things that make you who you are outside of being a mother. She is important. Make her a priority!
Don’t sweat the small stuff.
Listen, let me assure you. What you’re feeling now is temporary. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t even matter. Soon your babies will be in Kindergarten and you’ll miss those very moments you’re trying to escape. Yes, it’s overwhelming at times and yes you may feel moments of loneliness, but don’t sweat it. It’ll be over in the blink of an eye. So enjoy the good, the not so good, and everything in between! 🙂
Journal as often as possible.
Journaling is amazing and therapeutic. (Mommyhero tip: You can turn your journal into a book or blog later on as a stream of income for your family.) As mothers, we must learn to share our experiences with each other. Experiences unite! As you journal, you will begin to see areas of strength and areas of weakness. Assess both and make the necessary changes to become a better you. For me, journaling is a must. It allows me to acknowledge my “truths” and heightens my self-awareness! What I love most about journaling is seeing my personal growth and development. I amaze myself and love all of my Mommyhero goodness!
I hope you’ve found these tips to avoid burnout while raising your little ones useful. You’re doing an excellent job Mommyhero! Keep up the great work and know that God will reward you for these “hard” yet unforgettable moments!
Until next time…
Love you Mommyhero!
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Always remember, you are strong. You are great and you can do anything.